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We are here now.

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We are together.

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With ourselves, to begin with, always.

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That awful thing.

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Yourself!

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That you can't get rid of.

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You say it's the neighbour
but it's actually yourself.

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It's actually pretty funny that
we always refer to "the other".

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It's like that.
The other is our problem.

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The other is really our problem.

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It's actually hysterical

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but how I look at it when people say

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"It's really the other person.
The other is really my problem."

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It can't be.

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It just doesn't exist.

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It can't be anything but ...

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and it's not so nice what I'm about to say
but that's not that important.

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I'm not here to be fun all the time.

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It can't be any other way than that someone

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who says this is completely asleep.

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It can't be any other way that someone who

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says it always depends on the other
or that it is the other

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and comfirms it for themself.

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Completely connect themself with the other

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so that the other is the problem or
the other causes problems.

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It can't be any other way than that
the person who says this

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is in a state of sleep.

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Because how can you experience mastery
if you ...

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You experience the problem.

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You experience the irritation.

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You experience the uncertainty.

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You experience it. Right?

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Yes or no?

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Who experiences it?

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I experience the misery in me.

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I don't like this. I don't like that.

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If you do that, it hurts me.

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Do you understand?

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These are intensely deep rooted convictions.

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I get that.

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but ...

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fundamentally it is weird.

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I asked for silence.

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I didn't ask of you to become an "I" again.

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Silence.

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Stay here.

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Fundamentally it is weird.

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Should you, by the choices of someone else,

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get completely

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w-a-s-t-e-d

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by drinking,

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or lose yourself.

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Do you get what I mean? Yes?

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Somewhere, or not?

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Is it weird that we ...

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by the movements of somebody else,

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lose ourselves completely?

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It's a bit weird. Isn't it?

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Can we see it? Or are we ...?

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Keep a little distance from it.

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A little distance is good already.

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With a little distance you can see it better.

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If you become emotionally attached

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so your mind wraps itself around it

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then the conversation becomes very difficult.

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Then the insight in yourself becomes hard.

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Of course things will come to the surface
and you might have a question about this.

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Maybe a question arises.

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That's what I'm waiting for.

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That's what I'm ...

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waiting for.

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I don't have time.

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You've got a question. Great.

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That's what moves me.

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Something has to move you in life, right?

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Go ahead.